Tiba saat aku mulai lagi nulis2 blog. Well, mungkin aku udah cerita tentang ultah ke-25 kemaren. Agak telat sih emang aku cerita ini… tapi mungkin bisa bantu buat ngingetin kita semua, bahwa materi ngga selalu yang kita cari.
As you can see, sekarang aku udah hidup misah dari ortu. Dan misah dari orang tua, bukan berarti aku hidup dengan keluarga baru, like married atau kumpul kebo. Just a single boy in a house. Aku rutin ngunjungi ibuku, tapi kalo bokap. jujur, aku jarang berkunjung karena satu dan lain hal.
In my 25th birthday, my dad called me and gave me a set of home theatre. What a surprise for a movie freak like me! Dia dateng, bawain box, terus nyuruh aku nurunin. Aku seneng banget. Kemudian aku langsung pasang di kamar. All set in 15 minutes. Terus, bokap langsung cabut.
I told him to stay for a while and have a chat. But he said he was in a hurry. I know, really know what rushed him out, and it was unpleasing. Under a sorrow, I faked a smile and said thank you.
Damn… the home theatre was the thing I’ve been wishing for since months ago. But there is something I really wish more in my 25th birthday… I just want to have a nice talk with my dad. I want to talk to him about being a man, about responsibility, about life, or even about women from a father’s point of view. Selama ini, aku belajar dari pria2 dewasa justru banyak bukan dari bokap sendiri… Aku belajar dari Pak Lubis, guru bahasa Inggrisku SMA yang ampe sekarang masih single; dari Jean-Marc Devis, seorang tentara bayaran dari Perancis; dari Mas Ahmad Untoro, a family man yang masa lalunya minta dirahasiakan; Ustadz Wahfiudin yang sering muncul di TV; dari Pak Daryono, dosen pembimbing thesisku, tentang love and let go; dan banyak orang lain. Tapi dikit banget yang aku dapet dari bokap. Well, salah satu yang aku inget pesen dari dia, “kamu sekolah yang pinter, kuliah yang tinggi, dapet pendapatan menarik, nanti wanita pasti pada dateng sendiri…” walah Pak… lha Arjuno yang paling ganteng sak bumi dan langit aja harus mencari cinta… mosok aku sing ra bagus blas bisa didatengin cewe-cewe???… hueheheheheheheheheh… Dad, the birthday present was over the top. I gratefully thank you for that present. But I don’t need your present… All I need is your presence…
Semula aku mikir buat ngedepanin materi buat nikah. Dulu Pak Wahfiudin pernah nanya ma aku, “nunggu apa lagi buat married???” aku bilang aku bakalan married pas udah mapan semua: bisa beli mobil, beli rumah, tabungan, asuransi, investasi, dan seterusnya. Pak Wahfi dan Jean-Marc ngingetin aku, bahwa materi bukan segalanya.
Kata Pak Wahfiudin: “Harta kaya’ air laut, semakin diminum semakin haus…”
kalo kata Jean-Marc: “what are you waiting for, my boy? Now you want to have a car before you can marry. Later, when u can afford a car, you’ll wait until you can afford a house, later you’ll wait to own a private jet, and finally, you just realize that you are single, and you’re 65…” (Well JEan-Marc, what I’m waiting for is someone to marry huehehehehehehehe)
Kerasa banget sekarang, ngga ada yang bisa dijadiin tempat berbagi… I can afford my own car, but I drive alone… I can take care of my house, but I sleep alone… I can afford my own satelite TV, but I watch it alone… I can afford my phone bill, but got nobody to call… D’oh!!!… Well, I can share them with my mum, my bro, and sisters… But I obviously can’t marry ‘em! hehehehehehehehe… Ya tapi aku tetep ngerasa enjoy kok of being single! Mo maen ga ada yang ngelarang, ga telp/sms ga ada yang ngributin, mo swinging sana-sini ga ada yang ngambek, dst dst. Pokoknya I am the happiest single boy alive in this town lah… Apalagi masih punya super friends disini… love you guys!
I started to think that I want to be a Dad like HOMER SIMPSON… A loser, barely can pay his family’s bill, but he love his family more than anything in the world, and his family love him so much. Not much a dad like Homer nowadays… and not much a family like the SImpsons who love the loser dad…they gonna desert the loser dad in an instance hueheheheheheehheeh…
Ulang tahun 25… aku belajar sesuatu… FAMILY COMES FIRST… Keluarga jangan dijadiin kaya’ kucing, dikasih sisa-sisa. Waktu dihabisin buat cari duit, sisa waktu baru dikasih buat keluarga. Aku berusaha kebalikannya: waktu dihabisin buat keluarga, sisanya dihabisin buat cari duit. Yaaa ga se-ekstrim itu sih, tapi at least aku kelak harus bisa lebih berkompromi tentang waktu kalo udah regarding my family. duit mah dicari asal cukup buat bayar kebutuhan sehari2… ama foya-foya hueheheheheheheeh…
Hhhhhh…. Now I just wait for the perfect time for love then.
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